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Will it FLATTEN or FUEL you?





I LOVE working with my 1:1 Coaching Clients. I always get so excited to help them deep dive on where they've BEEN, who they ARE and where they're GOING!

And sometimes the WHERE YOU'VE BEEN can feel overwhelming.


I recently had an incredible day, speaking at Red Magazines Life's Rosie "How to Mend A Broken Heart" Retreat. A room of amazing women who are walking through one of the challenging times of life. Because sometimes life can BLINDSIDE us - and YES I've had my fair share of moments like that!

But IN those moments - we're still at CHOICE.

It's 100% up to US how we CHOOSE to move forward.


Now - it's obviously crucial that you take time to process what's happening - I'm not talking about positive thinking here. When you're in the eye of the storm you just need to take the time to BE and sit with the emotion. BUT THEN - YOU HAVE 2 CHOICES.

You either let the experience FLATTEN you.

Or you decide that you're going to let it FUEL you!


Whether you like football or not, we saw THE most amazing example of CHOOSING to let an experience FUEL you in Euro 2021. It wasn't the amazing teamwork of the 10 men on the pitch that, time and again, made me smile inside It was seeing Gareth Southgate on the sidelines, willing them on and clearly proud of a team he'd created!


I interviewed Gareth in 1997, the year after THAT penalty moment at Euro 96. If you don't remember - England were in the semi-finals, it went to penalties and Gareth missed his. When I filmed with him that year later, you could tell he had the world on his shoulders, his whole demeaner was flat.

AndHe was a broken man, used to all the jokes and chants and feeling he'd let the side down.

But somewhere between then and now?

He CHOSE to let the experience FUEL not FLATTEN him!



And I'm SO totally in AWE of everything he and the team achieved these past few weeks.


So how about YOU?

Have you let those negative life experiences drag you down?

Have you let them define you?

Or have you let them D.E.F. I.N.E YOU - and used them to POWER YOU UP in the most incredible way!


As I shared with one of my amazing clients this week - here's a super powerful analogy for those seasons of life. Think of a bow and arrow.

The archer pulls the string back, right? But - here's the bit you may not think about...

The further the string pulls back, the FURTHER THE ARROW CAN GO!

THE MORE YOU FEEL AS IF LIFE IS PULLING YOU BACK - THE MORE IT'S PREPARING YOU FOR LAUNCH TO PLACES YOU NEVER DREAMT POSSIBLE!

IF you CHOOSE to LET IT!


SO - today was all about encouraging you and reminding you that whatever you've walked through, whatever has blindsided you, whatever life has thrown your way - YOU ARE AT CHOICE with how you move forward from it!


So start OWNING WHO YOU ARE, LET IT FUEL YOU and LIVE IT!


*and yes - I am CHOOSING to focus on all the positives of the Euro 2021 experience because WOW - there were SO many! What an experience! Look out 2022!